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Celebrating the Savior’s Resurrection

This year I’ve struggled a little on how to celebrate the Easter Holiday with our youngest child still at home, our twelve year old daughter. In years past we have done a complete Passover feast. This was an exciting and educational activity but took a lot of time and effort – although definitely worth it.

This past year has been busy. We returned from our mission in Italy when my father was diagnosed with cancer. He passed away last April and we are staying near my mother for a while to offer support and help. With all that has been going on, I wanted to celebrate in a more simple, but still meaningful way.

Last night the idea came to me. I feel it was inspired. I know that when I am praying for ways to touch the hearts of my children and help them feel the Spirit and influence of the Holy Ghost, I receive help.

The idea was simple… as today, Thursday, is three days before the Savior’s resurrection, that makes today the day of His crucifixion. This afternoon we held a brief devotional. We began by singing a hymn, I Stand All Amazed. Our daughter then offered a prayer and we watched this video from the Church’s website:   He Is Risen

We stopped the video just after the Savior’s death. We talked about what we watched, how He suffered, His betrayal, His forgiveness toward those who did not understand what they were doing, and His love for us.

I have not shared the rest of our celebration with our daughter, but she will be involved with the preparation. Sunday after Church we are traveling to a cave near where we live. It’s a cave no larger than the one where the Savior’s body rested for three days. We will take some oils and clean cloth, as Mary might have done. When we arrive at the cave, we will find it empty… like the Savior’s tomb. We will sit there for a while and I hope we share our feelings. I will bear my testimony to my daughter, that I know He lives.

I pray the Spirit will bear witness to her. I want that for her, an experience that she will remember later… a memory that will someday give her strength. I know He wants that for her, too.

The J. Reuben Clark International Academy

LDS based K12 high school accredited academy

We are pleased to announce the opening of the J. Reuben Clark International Academy. The school opens in the Fall of 2012. The Academy is created based on years of educational experience and LDS religion-based academics. This K-12 online school will provide accredited high school diplomas to students meeting the requirements for graduation. The curriculum focus is scripture based, presenting all areas of study in an integrated chronolgical order. High School courses are largely project based, providing students with the opportunity to develop individual talents and interests.

 

The J. Reuben Clark Academy will be accepting enrollments beginning February 2013. Tuition is affordable and scholarships are available.

A House United

I don’t usually talk about books and products on my posts; I save that for my “Fave Products” page. But when I find something extraordinary, I want to tell the world about it. This book is extraordinary.

 

When I met Nicholeen Peck at a recent LDS homeschool convention, I was impressed with her confidence. She basically told me she could parent any child using methods she had written about – especially the many foster children she had taken into her home. I guess I was slightly skeptical, but I took the book and promised to read it.

 

Well, it took a while for me to get into the book, not because I didn’t want to, but I couldn’t wrest it away from my grown daughter who has two young children of her own. One day while visiting her home, I saw it on her bedside table, picked it up, and informed her I was taking it home to look it over.

 

Well, it’s not a book you just “look over”. You devour it, examine it, digest it, and hopefully take notes as you travel through her own journey of discovery and immediately see ways you can apply what she lived to what you are living. I found myself getting excited about parenting – wishing that in some ways I could have a “do over” with some things I had done with my grown children. I have twelve year-old still at home and I know it’s NEVER too late to start implementing good into any life.

 

Many of Nicholeen’s methods are true principles that we already know in our head or heart; we simply don’t know how to implement them in a practical way. Her tag-line is “Changing children’s hearts and behaviors by teaching self-government.” As I read, I found myself relating what she said not only to my twelve year-old, but also to my grown children and my other life relationaships. Her book is a lesson in life… for anyone.  But what a blessing when we can impart some of these oftimes “hard-learned” lessons to our children when they are so young.

 

Nicholeen was featured on British television in a documentary about her parenting. I’ll be talking about some of her principles here… relating them to your homeschool experience. But don’t wait for me… Buy the book!

http://teachingselfgovernment.com/

Why Can’t My Child Learn? (Part 2)

Well, as you know if you read part 1 of this article, there is no child who cannot learn. We as parents have the opportunity to become informed about how to discover our child’s learning style, and then facilitate learning opportunities that cater to the learning style. It may seem like a daunting task, especially if you have a large family, but it doesn’t have to be. Discovering each child’s dominate learning style is important but it doesn’t need to happen before you can begin to create an effective and optimal learning environment in your home.

 

Have you heard the expression “You have to crawl before you can walk”? Well, itls also true that it helps to crawl before you read. Those gross motor skills that we learn early in life and take for granted later are actually essential to learning. Take for instance the act of crawling. This movement requires simultaneous movement of opposite limbs. This process is important for proper brain development. So don’t be in such a hurry to get your baby walking. By crawling, he is developing important brain funtion.

 

Did you ever warm up before playing a sport? Well, fortunately there are exercises that prepare and stimulate the brain for learning. Some even fill in gaps that were missed in early development. For instance, look at the drawing above, of the girl making a figure eight. This exercise is best done by clasping the hands together, index fingers touching and pointed. Holding arms outstretched, look at the tip of your index fingers and follow them as you make a figure eight motion with your arms. Be sure to move in both directions. This exercise gets both sides of the brain working together.

 

A few years ago, when we tested many of our programs in The Red Schoolhouse, we began every day with two or three exercises. We made it part of our morning devotional. …and it worked!!! We had marked improvement over the course of the year, especially with a few of my students who had been told in public school that they had learning challenges. I am proud to say that although each one has returned to public school, they are successful students in all of their studies.

 

Brain Gym: Teacher's EditionThese exercises are are available to everyone, but have been largely developed by a company called Brain Gym. This company has books available that show you how to integrate these quick exercises into your home classroom.

If you want to try a few exercises before purchasing their materials, go to

http://esl.about.com/od/englishlessonplans/a/braingym.htm

Here are some other titles that may help you help your child:

Brain Gym: Teacher’s Edition by Paul E. Dennison and Gail E. Dennison

 

Brain Gym: Simple Activities for Whole Brain Learning by Paul E. Dennison and Gail E. Dennison

 

Teaching Smarter With the Brain in Focus: Practical Ways to Apply the Latest Brain Research to Deepen Comprehension, Improve Memory, and Motivate Students to Achieve by Sarah Armstrong

 

Hands On: How to Use Brain Gym in the Classroom by Marcelle Goldsmith and Isabel Cohen

 

Brain Gym and Me – Reclaiming the Pleasure of Learning by Paul E. Dennison

 

Brain Breaks for the Classroom: Quick and Easy Breathing and Movement Activities That Help Students Reenergize, Refocus, and Boost Brain Power-Anytime of the Day! by Michelle Gay

 

Smart Moves: Why Learning Is Not All in Your Head by Carla Hannaford

 

Disconnected Kids: The Groundbreaking Brain Balance Program for Children with Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia, and Other Neurological Disorders by Robert Melillo

 

Making the Brain Body Connection: A Playful Guide to Releasing Mental, Physical & Emotional Blocks to Success by Sharon Promislow

 

 

 

Why Can’t My Child Learn? (Part 1)

Is there a child that truly cannot learn? Probably not, but many parents may feel this way as a result of frustration when a child fails to progress at the same rate as his or her peers. We know that all children are different. However, some differences become more obvious when  children are compared to each other in a classroom setting where gates, standards, and measures have been put into place to gauge student progress and evaluate teacher and school effectiveness.

 

For most parents, this form of assessment works – in a way. Report cards, parent/teacher conferences, and internet tracking provide enough information to know whether a child is keeping pace with peers, or if parent intervention is needed. Unfortunately, by the time a family reaches this point, incorrect learning patterns have usually already been established and long-term damage has been done. The words “learning disability” can seem like an academic death sentence, depending on the severity of the problem.

 

Whether you are a parent who has been told your child has “disabilities”, or a parent who wants to create the most nurturing academic environment possible for your child, a shift in paradigm might be your answer. Although a paradigm shift may seem a bit too  simplistic, its fruits could be the key to your child’s success. In part one of this series, we’ll talk about the paradigm.

It’s simple, really.

 

As Ron Muir, a noted educator and author of the “Think Like A Genius” program has stated, “There really are no learning disabilities, only different learning abilities.” His philosophy is that each child comes to us with his own unique set of talents and abilities. This God-given combination makes it possible for each child to accomplish his divine mission, or to become what he was spiritually born to be. When we fail to recognize and nurture these abilities, our child’s natural learning process is slowed and he is left to find ways to compensate.

 

Our role as parents is to discover these talents and abilities and to create an environment that will nurture the learning process. This is most effective when begun in infancy. So how is this accomplished? First, begin by keeping a notebook of your observations of your child – a diary of sorts. What interests him early on? Does he enjoy colors and visual stimulation, or does he respond more to audio cues like music and voices?  Does he pick up everything in reach and put it in his mouth? Maybe an experience is most impressionable to your child.  Most babies utilize all of these resources as they develop, and as a parent, you want to develop all of your baby’s potential learning styles, but  you’ll also want to be aware of his natural strengths and find ways to help them work for him.

 

As he becomes a toddler, his ways of learning will become more obvious. Continue to track your observations. As you do this, and you begin to see your child’s intelligence profile, you will be able to enhance his education by designing activities accordingly.

 

What exactly is learning style or intelligence? A child’s learning styles or intelligences can be identified in several ways. One philosophy, created by Howard Gardner, identifies eight different intelligences or learning styles. They are:

  • Verbal/Linguistic
  • Logical/Mathematical
  • Visual/Spatial
  • Bodily/Kinesthetic
  • Naturalistic
  • Musical
  • Interpersonal
  • Intrapersonal

Each intelligence occupies a different area of the brain. They may operate in consort or independently from one another.

 

Howard Gardner believes “It’s not how smart you are, but how you are smart.”

 

When you learn to see your child’s natural abilities in this way, you can begin to empower him to learn in a way that supports his mind and spirit. Learning is then accelerated and is seen as a joy and a passion, not work.

 

Doesn’t this all take time? Yes it does.  But a parent who has chosen to homeschool a child has taken the first step in creating an optimum environment for learning.

 

In our next blog, we’ll talk about more learning styles and how you can begin at any point in your child’s development to create the perfect environment and to overcome “disabilities.”

©2011 Patti Landes Adams, All Rights Reserved

 

*To know more about Gardner’s Eight Intelligences, go to this link and view the presentation.

http://www.coe.uga.edu/~morey/presentations/mi/index.htm

Daniel’s Trip To Florence (or… is reading about it really as good as being there?)

Dad, Mom & Daniel atop the Duomo in Florence - LIFE School HomeschoolSeveral years ago, two of our oldest children left on missions at the same time… one to Canada and the other to Croatia. This separation was so traumatic for all of us (including them) that we ecided our then sixteen year-old son should see some of the world, too. We hoped that an adventure abroad would eliminate some of the Missionary Training Center “drop-off blues” for him when it was his time to serve a mission. He chose Italy… mostly because he loved the country already (his father and I both served missions there), he LOVED history – especially the Renaissance, and we knew a family near Milano that was willing to host him for a few months.

 

The adventure turned out to be a great experience for him and his love for the country increased. Of course at the end of his visit of about two months, we decided we needed to travel to Italy and accompany him home. Neither of us had been back since serving as young missionaries. I can’t remember when I have ever been more excited. The thought that I would be touching down in Italy again was almost more excitement than I could bear. I served in Southern Italy and was eager to see people I had left behind. But I was also excited to see many of the places in northern Italy where my husband served, and that I had written about in my curriculum program.

 

After meeting up with Daniel in Bergamo, we traveled around some of the major cities of the north, finishing the leg of the trip in Florence. We spent two days in that beautiful city. We hiked the 450+ steps to the top of the Duomo, ascending a stairwell that would have never been allowed in the U.S. It was narrow and often dark. Traffic was climbing up and returning down – certainly not to ADA code, but what an experience not to be missed! As we emerged through a small hatch to the daylight above us on the roof, I sure I actually gasped. It was one of the most breathtaking sites I have ever seen. It is, without a doubt, the most beautiful city I have ever visited! That afternoon we also saw Michelangelo’s David, and other beautiful statues created by the masters.

 

Later that evening, after paying €6,00 for gelato (worth every cent), we headed over to Ponte Vecchio. As we climbed the cobblestone bridge just as the sun was setting, we sensed a revererence. None of us spoke. We just looked… and thought. After a while I happened to look over at Daniel and was surprised to see my teenage son with eyes full of tears. “What’s wrong, Daniel? Are you alright?,” I asked. When he was able to speak, he answered, “Mom, do you realize who has crossed this bridge… who has stood in the same place I am standing now?” Of course I knew to whom he was referring… DaVinci, Michelangelo, Rafael, Galileo… I was moved at his realization. His appreciation of everything he had learned about this place in our curriculum suddenly multiplied – it was real. There was no way I would have ever been able to create this experience for him by telling him about it.

 

So what am I saying here? That it’s best to visit every place you learn about in your homeschool? Well, financially that’s not possible for most families. What I am saying is that any lesson sticks best when it is accompanied by emotion and more than one of the six senses (the Spirit being one of the senses).

 

I will never forget the day I had the opportunity to visit the Sacred Grove. I had been asked to speak at a Homeschool convention in Kirtland and noticed while looking at a map on the flight over that Palmyra was only about an inch away (as maps go). I rented a car the day after I presented and seized the chance to visit the place I had testified to people about for years. Would I be the same person had I not gone? Probably, but I would have regretted it for the rest of my life, had I chosen not venture out. It was worth every minute.

 

Homeschool families have the freedom to see the world – even if it is only within a one-hundred mile radius of their home. As you educate you children, get them out of the house often and allow them to see, feel, and experience the world they are learning about. Let them help in saving and planning to visit a place that you all want to see and make a family goal to take at least one major trip per year. Be mobile, flexible, and creative. You never know when you are making a lasting impression on your child – or when someone else is…. even if they haven’t walked the earth for hundreds of years.

 

And the rest of the story… Daniel is now 21. He recently returned home after spending two years in Italy.  Yes, he served an LDS mission there… in fact, in my mission.  :)

 

More later about home education and life experience…

©2011 Patti Landes Adams, All Rights Reserved

The Changing Face of L.D.S. Homeschool

The Changing Face of LDS Homeschool

Hand-held devices greatly enhance today’s homeschool experience

I began homeschooling in 1992. I had three children at the time – ages 7, 5, and 1. My seven and five year-old were in second grade and kindergarten, respectively. We were living in my hometown and my children were attending the elementary school that I had attended as a child. Of course this seemed like a good idea at first, but I quickly became aware of the changes that had taken place since I was a student there. Many made me uncomfortable, some scared me. My husband and I decided we needed to educate our children at home.

 

My first challenge was to find some kind of curriculum. I knew I wanted to teach them the gospel as the foundation of our education plan. Beyond that, I decided that locating a few used textbooks at Deseret Industries was good enough to start. I found books to cover all of the important subjects… math, science, grammar… and I began expanding our home reading library.

 

A short time later we moved to a small farming community, in a state that was homeschool friendly. We set up a classroom in our attic and began classes. I’m sure our school resembled much of my public school experience, except that at first there were only four of us and when the children needed a break, we took one. Some days we explored the mountains and trails around our home, other days we spent at the library. When the weather was warm we ran through the sprinklers and talked about the properties of water. In the cool fall we lay on the grass and buried each other in the leaves or looked up at the sky and talked about the migrating birds overhead. We shared thoughts, hopes, dreams, and talked about who they really were, and why they were on the earth… members of our family. It was a sweet time and I enjoyed knowing my children in a way that I knew I would be missing had I left them in public school.

 

They seemed to be progressing well academically. After a time, a couple of friends heard about what we were doing in our attic and asked if they could send their children to school with us, too. I agreed, thinking “How difficult could it be?”  I was naïve. Our numbers doubled and so did my work. I felt that friendships would be good for them, but I was not prepared for the extra work I created for myself. Because I was still maintaining much of my public school mentality, I tried to develop a different program for each child. The state required a different scope and sequence for each grade level, and I thought that I should, too. I was trying to teach the first graders to read, the third graders to memorize multiplication, the fourth graders to learn state history, and the fifth graders to study states and capitols. I was finding that I was staying up until 2:00 a.m. every night, working hard to create an individual plan for each child. Needless to say, I burned out before the year ended… discouraged and exhausted.

 

I renewed my enthusiasm that summer by attending my first home school convention. It was held at Brigham Young University and was just what I needed. As soon as I stepped on campus I felt the electricity and enthusiasm of L.D.S. homeschool movement. People had gathered from all over the country to be with other homeschoolers and to see the newest products. In most places in the country, “homeschool” was still a bad word, so uniting with others with similar convictions was refreshing. Ideas and encouragement were being exchanged at every turn.

 

The speakers were exceptional. Reed Benson was the keynote speaker. What a privilege it was to hear from him. I chose classes which I thought would help me be better organized the following fall. Shopping the long, long hall of curriculum vendors was fun, but after about four hours of listening to sales pitches, I felt I had been drinking from a fire hydrant. I was confused about what was best for my children and nothing they offered really fit my situation. Besides, so much was Christian-based and although it was well-written, it did not address the gospel of Jesus Christ as I felt we should be doing as a family. And the cost! If I did not choose the right program, we would be stuck with a very expensive mistake.

 

That fall I taught with more confidence. And although I still struggled with curriculum, I learned from other homeschoolers this most important concept: That no one loved my children more than I did; no one cared more about their academics than I did; and no one else probably cared at all about their spiritual progression – the part of their education that was most important to me. I knew that the Spirit would direct me to know what was best to teach them, and would guide me as their mom and teacher.  Knowing this, I knew I could do at least as good of a job as the local school, and probably much better in the areas that counted most. During the subsequent years, my approach improved and we grew together as a family.

 

I have watched the homeschool movement change over the past twenty years. It continues to evolve. Most of the changes I have observed are good. Parents who choose to take charge of their children’s education and teach their children at home, especially those in the Church, have many more choices today. It is much easier to have a well-organized home classroom without feeling the need to duplicate the public school classroom. Professional companies have jumped on the curriculum bandwagon to provide material that is challenging and meets national education standards. Teaching philosophies and learning styles are addressed to help families create and customize a program that fits their needs. Technology provides ways to deliver information to parent and child in ways that streamline curriculum while making it more interactive, effective, and interesting. These developments empower parents to be better teachers by helping them meet each of their child’s needs and address individual learning styles.

 

The internet has also made the attainment of information affordable. Although the camaraderie of a large home school convention can’t be duplicated exactly over the internet, parents can still participate via live streaming, saving airfare and other travel expenses. Curriculum comparisons can be made via the internet and without time constraints. And blogs, newsletters, local conventions and support groups can still provide a sense of community for families educating at home. These are all positive changes in the industry that have combined to create a more mainstream reputation, thus inviting more and more families to participate.

 

But not all changes have been positive. It seems to me that the key challenge to modern home education is lack of parent involvement. While not always the case, an increasing number of families tend to leave the role of educator to the curriculum provider. This is easier to do when the program is completely computer-based, eliminating the need for parent interface. One such program which is gaining in popularity, mostly because it is free, is simply an extension of public education in the home. All public school rules and expectations apply to the student, who is usually required to spend a certain number of hours logged into the computer or “school.” In my opinion, this is an invasion of family privacy – an invasion that parents should not allow. Because the curriculum is secular, parents are left to “add” scripture to the program, instead of presenting the gospel as the cornerstone of a child’s education.

 

So what is the ideal LDS home education setting? First, LDS parents should know consciously why they are homeschooling. This knowledge will keep the parent going during rough times… which will surely come. I didn’t really know why I was homeschooling, but something in my heart told me that I needed to. Then I read a book that clarified many of my feelings and armed me with a good amount of conviction. The book is titled “Revealed Educational Principles and the Public Schools,” by Jack Monnett. If you have not read it and are currently homeschooling, or considering homeschooling, this book is a “must read.”  Another book I recommend is “Educating Zion.” It was published by BYU Studies and examines the history of BYU as envisioned by early Church leaders. Some of the chapter headings include: An Eternal Quest – Freedom of the Mind; Education for Eternity; A House of Faith; Discipleship and Scholarship; Our Sacred Trust; and more. If you don’t feel that these ideas are at the foundation of your current homeschool program, I suggest you read the book and explore how these ideas can make your homeschool experience much more enjoyable for your children, and much more rewarding for you.

 

A parent should look for a curriculum that leaves open the possibility to change course during a lesson, as the Spirit directs. No software program, no workbook, can take the place of a loving and concerned parent. Be there to hear your child’s questions and respond. Your child won’t learn what you believe from anyone but you. A good curriculum will not tie a child to a computer screen without the opportunity to get out and see the world. Most subjects such as math and grammar can be effectively taught via a computer, but in order for parents to be truly effective, they must interact with their children and act as teacher and mentor. A good curriculum provides “theory,” a parent provides “application.”

 

History lessons are most effective when based on a scriptural timeline that shows a child his place in the world’s history. Secular and spiritual events should be taught in tandem, not as separate subjects. Then, when spiritual topics are discussed, or human behavior in history goes awry, the parent is close by and available to talk through events and beliefs that may affect a child’s view of himself, the family, the world, but more importantly, his relationship with God.

 

And don’t leave out the basics. Children still need to learn to memorize, write, compute basic math equations in their head, and spell most words correctly – even if they have access to “spell check.”  I suggest prayerfully building a spiritual foundation for your family. As parents, set goals for the kind of adults you want your children to become – then teach to your goals. What character traits do you want them to possess morally and spiritually? Let this be your base. Then select a curriculum or program that supports your family goals.

 

Utilize technology in your homeschool. Technology is not going away and children need to be technologically literate – not just for a competitive job market, but in our changing day-to-day world. We all learn differently and computers can deliver information in several different ways, making them capable of addressing a child’s individual learning style. In the near future we will see a greater use of hand-held devices such as the Android Tablet or the iPad or iPod Touch. These tools can be highly effective learning environments for students of any age.

 

As you consider or continue in the path of LDS home education, hold fast to ideas from the past that nurture the parent/child relationship. Then look to future technological possibilities and advancements that will bless and accelerate your child’s progress. During this education process with you as mentor, an intimate rapport will grow and develop between you and your child.  Trust will be established – a trust that will be vital during the teenage years and beyond.

 

©2011 Patti Landes Adams, All Rights Reserved

Collateral Damage and the Youth of Zion

Youth of Zion - LIFE School Homeschool

In a popular American city, huge, elaborate hotels are built to entertain its visitors. It is a gambling city, and gambling permeates every aspect of the hotel industry. As hotels are designed, architects build into the blueprints an element known as collateral damage. Collateral damage refers to the expected cost of human life. For example, one hotel anticipated that at least two men would probably die during construction due to the dangerous nature of the design. Only one man actually lost his life in the construction of this particular hotel, but he left a family—parents who grieve for him—for a hotel that entertains others. One doubts there is a plaque honoring him hanging in the lobby.

 

Collateral damage exists in war, firefighting, and police service. The difference is that men die saving other people’s lives and preserving freedoms. There is honor in this kind of death. We seem better able to deal with death when there is a purpose—when the person died doing something good or heroic, or defending a worthy cause. Still, families grieve at lives lost.

 

A different collateral damage faces parents in today’s society. Young people in and out of the Church are suffering spiritual death by the thousands. The temptations of society, the demands to grow up too quickly in a media-sophisticated, drug-filled world has claimed the spiritual, and too often physical lives of our precious children. We knew this was coming. It was prophesied in the scriptures again and again. We feel sorrow when it is someone else’s son, and anguish when it is our own son.

 

Years ago, when my two oldest children were in second grade and kindergarten, they were in public school; the same public school that I had attended. The program seemed great at first. My kindergartner even had a teacher that had been my favorite. But after a while I noticed they came home with an attitude. They were belligerent and a little disrespectful—not my sweet offspring! It took us until bedtime to get our children back. One day it dawned on me that we were going to reach a point when the evening hours would not be enough for us to reclaim their personalities. The attitude would become who they were, permanently.

 

Later, when my kindergartner came home and told me he had learned at school from his classmates where babies came from, I was horrified. Another morning I kept my second grade daughter home a few extra minutes to complete the daily chores that she had resisted doing. She had begun dawdling in the morning. I knew that ten minutes of missed schoolwork would be worth the lesson learned. When she arrived at the office to check in, she was asked why she was late. She responded honestly and was told, “You tell your mother that nothing at home is more important than you being here at school on time. Do not be late again!” This bothered my daughter; not that she had been reprimanded, but that someone felt they had more stewardship over her than her mom had.

 

That summer we took charge of our children’s education and have been doing so ever since. They have been taught at home, and have been educated in Latter-day Saint gospel-based schools. What adventures we have had! I have experienced the joy of seeing my children learn things about the world for the first time. We studied the Holy Scriptures every day as they grew, and talked often about their divine missions. We struggled together and we enjoyed victories together. My children shed the attitude. We didn’t see it emerge again until about age fifteen. It only lasted for about six months, and was replaced by kind, respectful, young adults with whom we love to spend time.

 

I have had people over the years ask me about our choices in education. They always go back to the argument that children need the socialization that public schools can provide. I respond with “Although I was raised in a gambling town, I am not a gambling person. I don’t gamble at all, much less with that which I am not willing to lose. I don’t like collateral damage.”

 

Yes, I understand that coming to Earth was a risk. I know that Satan’s plan was a sure way without freedom and that the Father’s way included risk—even collateral damage—that some would choose not to return. But I believe in improving the odds and I believe He does, too. He sent His Son to show us the way and improve our chances of returning, knowing His Son would be mocked, scourged, and brutally murdered. He sent prophets and apostles whom he knew would also be mocked and killed. He sent the flood to give the future generations a chance to be raised righteously. He sacrificed much to help give me and my family every chance to get back. I owe my own precious children, my divine stewardship, nothing less.

 

Another argument raised is “Public schools need our children to be good examples, to be missionaries.” The Church calls missionaries at age nineteen; twenty-one for women. The Church feels that a person is mature enough at this age to represent the Church in a dignified manner, and is grounded enough in his or her own testimony to withstand the spiritual opposition. If my seventh grader is sent to school to be an example and proselyte, there will undoubtedly be others “proselyting” to him. Unfortunately, some are teachers sharing their beliefs as fact, steering my child to explore ideas that conflict with gospel truths. Others may be good Christian kids who are sharing different religious beliefs than we hold. Most likely, many are non-Christians who are sharing contrary moral beliefs and making them sound very exciting to my precious son. He is human. He can choose the things that are presented to him as fun, cool, and “in,” no matter how often we hold Family Home Evening or read our scriptures as a family. In addition, the age group isolation that occurs in public schools means that he has to face the pressure, persuasion, disapproval, shaming, teasing, and mocking of not one or two immature adversaries at a time, but a collective mass. For him, “everybody is doing it,” because he has so little exposure to the majority that are not. He has a greater chance of becoming collateral damage of the system. His opportunity to be a missionary in such an environment against such odds, before he is spiritually ready is simply not worth it to me. In addition, home education is not solitary confinement. With planning, our children can interact with other children and adults in many settings, still providing the opportunity for example and influence. My own children have played on athletic teams, attended proms, bettered their community, and cared for orphans in South America.

 

Still another argument is “I cannot teach my own children. I am not a teacher.” We teach our children every day. We teach them to walk, to talk, to tie their shoes. We teach them what we believe by what we say and by what we don’t say. Are parents not, in most cases, the best teachers for their own children? Parents have two things going for them that educational institutions cannot touch—an intimate knowledge of a child’s strengths and weaknesses, with a vested interest in the child’s well-being; and the inspiration of the Holy Ghost through prayer to know what an individual child needs.

 

The biggest concern I believe parents have is that they do not have the academic skills to help their children to be competitive in today’s world. This is a valid concern. Educating your children can be intimidating. Years ago when we began educating at home, we were questioned, talked about, and thought to be fringe extremists. Any materials we had were scrounged textbooks from Deseret Industries and whatever else we could find. Today, more and more, home educators are being seen by others as spiritual heroes possessing the courage to go the extra mile for their children.

 

Now more than ever, parents do not need degrees to teach their children.
1) Gospel-based curriculum programs are coming on the market every day: ranging from outlines and guides which allow for freedom and flexibility, to complete, well-rounded, parent-friendly curriculums based on gospel principles, while providing full academic stimulation. The LDS Home Educators Association (LDSHEA) and LDS National Homeschool Association (LDS-NHA) are the best resources to discover what will work best for your family. They can be found on the internet.
2) Often successful home education is a joint exploration–parents and children learning something new together. Education is as much about learning how to learn as it is about acquiring information and understanding, and that can be done together.
3) LDS and Christian home education groups are springing up everywhere. Within these groups, parents who may be stronger in certain subjects can offer support to parents who feel less confident.

 

Home education does require the extra mile. Mothers may need to abandon a fulfilling career; recreational vehicles and designer clothing may have to wait; and families may even need to consider a home cottage business to fill the financial gap of mother’s lost income—but it can be done, and is being done by thousands of families all over the world.

 

I do not want to say that all children who attend public school will make poor choices. Parent involvement in community schools has a positive impact. Gospel teaching in the home is vital. Most administrators and teachers in public education work hard to provide the best environment they can. Billions of dollars are spent annually to fix the situation, but will the needed change be brought about quickly enough to save our children? I believe that no amount of money can ever recapture the innocence we have lost.

 

It is a great blessing to be able to prayerfully choose what is best for our own children. Each family must personally decide what risks they are willing to take with their children’s physical and spiritual safety. We want them to grow in faith and wisdom so that when we are not looking, they will choose what is right and good, and what will bring them the most happiness. How tragic it is when they choose otherwise. It breaks our hearts. Although we must allow their right to choose, we can and should do all we can to minimize their chances of becoming collateral damage.

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